The “H” Word 6

I have a new 4-letter word to add to the list of words that drive me bonkers – Hate.

I know, pretty radical word, isn’t it? Let me explain. Let’s take a little trip back in time, you know, to save the future and all.

During the run up to the 2008 Presidential election, it was no secret that I was no fan of (to put it lightly) Barack Obama. I heard time and time again that if you didn’t support Obama, you “hated black people.” Or, “you hate him because he’s black.” To which I would reply (or think when I heard this ridiculous logic on TV), “no, I don’t hate him at all. I don’t agree with his positions on key issues, and it most definitely has nothing to do with the color of his skin.”

Don’t get me wrong. I’m certain there are people who don’t like, even hate, the President due to the color of his skin, and that is a shame and really a commentary in and of itself of how far we haven’t come since the Civil Rights movement.

Over the past year two years the term “haters” seems to have increased in popularity. See this post for more on haters. It’s gotten to the point where if someone doesn’t agree with us, they are quickly labeled a hater. “Dont support me?” You’re a hater. “Said something I didn’t agree with?” You’re a hater. And it goes on and on.

And now we come to the big one, and this will offend some of you, and that’s ok. My goal is to get you to think, so hear me out.

You may have heard about the two “small” cases the Supreme Court is taking up this week, both in regards to the issue of same sex marriage.

I’ve covered in previous posts my views and beliefs on homosexuality. Feel free to look them up for yourself.

But do me a favor. Do not call me a hater because I don’t agree with a way of life. I often times hear the words “fear monger” and “war monger” tossed around, and I can’t help but think when you label everyone a “hater” who doesn’t see the world the same way you do, you’re a “crazy monger” or a “no logic monger”.

Here’s the thing. When you apply these kinds of labels on people you’re almost immediately shutting down any good chance you had for an honest, open dialog with them. Perhaps they had some insight that would have been beneficial, but now you won’t know, because they’re oh so full of hate.

Then there’s the other “H” word – homophobic. Don’t get me started on that one. Again, just because I don’t agree with a life style in no way means that I’m afraid of people practicing that lifestyle. That logic is childish and silly at best and a bald faced lie at worst.

So, please, do us all a favor and quit throwing the “H” word around all the time.

6 thoughts on “The “H” Word

  1. Reply Glen Hallead Mar 27,2013 2:04 am

    Yes and love just kind of erases that for those who can receive it doesn’t it. Thank God, the only one who had a right to hate saw fit to love even unto death… Love ya bro’. Keep ’em comin!

  2. Reply Jared Mar 27,2013 2:05 am

    Thanks, Glen. Yes love covers all. So thankful for that. Love you, too!

  3. Reply Lew Brill Mar 27,2013 2:28 am

    Good word, JB…good word.

  4. Reply Gabe Hakvaag Mar 27,2013 3:26 am

    “When you apply these kinds of labels on people you’re almost immediately shutting down any good chance you had for an honest, open dialog with them.” We may disagree on some stuff, Jared, but I wholeheartedly agree with this. Diminishing people to cartoon villains to protect your own sense of rightness isn’t just foolish, it’s kind of evil. In God’s eyes there are no differences between us; the only distinction is whether or not we have entered into a relationship with Him. So when we disagree, we must do so within the bounds of the love God has called us in to.

    Hope you and your family have a blessed Holy Week.


    • Reply Jared Mar 27,2013 11:58 am

      Gabe, well said! It’s something I feel we’re all guilty of at times. It definitely makes it easier to “prove a point” when you reduce the other side to nonsense, but the again, you’re not really proving a point.

      I hope you and yours have a blessed Holy Week as well. Without this week, it would all be for naught. How blessed we are.

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